End of an era

Ottawa, Personal

Wong’s Palace opened in 1978. That same year my grandparents started going there to eat. When my daughter was born we took her there and put in her the same high chairs I used as a baby. It has been our family place my whole life. Every Christmas Eve dinner, birthdays and other celebrations. When […]

November 24, 2018

Marriage, that blessed arrangement


A few weeks I went to an event for work. This event involved me greeting some guests in the lobby of the hotel where it was being held, which also meant I got to do some people watching. It was pretty great considering our event was for kids and a lot of them were wearing […]

November 22, 2018

Baby It’s Cold Outside


It’s November and we had a snow day last week and a frostbite advisory today. I’m confused. It feels intensely cold, and I think part of that is that I was so totally unprepared for it this early. It makes it very difficult to leave the house when you don’t have to. Or get out […]

November 21, 2018

Being loud

Health, Personal

This fall I started taking voice lessons. It’s something I have wanted to do most of my life, but never wanted people to know it’s something I wanted. It’s been good, fun some days, but this weekend it was different. This weekend I walked into the room feeling unbelievably uncomfortable in my own skin. I […]

November 20, 2018

Hill House


I have been watching The Haunting of Hill House. I was warned that it might be too much. I heard from people that it was too scary. I have not found it that scary – no more than any horror movie, certainly, and most episodes not at all, really. What I have found is an […]

November 19, 2018



November seems to be disappearing in front of my eyes. It’s rather confusing, because it really feels like it just started, and now it seems like it’s about to be December. The weather isn’t helping – we’ve had our coldest day and a snow day already. It also doesn’t help that I’m diving into a […]

November 18, 2018

Trans Rights Are Human Rights

Issues, Personal

Years ago we were invited over to a friends’ house for dinner and during that dinner one of our friends told us that he was going to be transitioning – that he would be him in the near future. This was fairly easy to accept. For one, because it was clear he was confident and […]

November 18, 2018

A decade


I went through a job interview recently in which one of the questions was ‘where do you see yourself in 10 years’ and I was flabbergasted. Because I don’t freaking know. I know that 10 years ago I certainly did not expect to be where I am now, and any guesses 10 years before that […]

November 17, 2018



Since my last tattoo I have been thinking about my next tattoo. Partly inspired by the woman who did my last two – and Joe’s last one. Partly inspired by my embracing my geekiness. At the same time that I’ve been designing my next tattoo in my head, I have also been thinking that maybe […]

November 15, 2018

To echo what he’d done


When we were in New York, I took the kid to see Kinky Boots. I’ve seen the show before, and I’m a fan. It’s an uplifting story with fun music and drag queens – where can that go wrong? The kid had heard some of the music and specifically asked to see it, so we […]

November 14, 2018