The Ernie to my Bert


I never planned on getting married. My parents split up when I was 3 and as I aged I watched more and more friends experience the same thing. It didn’t seem worth it. And as I got older it didn’t seem likely I would find someone who even wanted to marry me. But as with […]

March 7, 2018

Side Effects

Health, Personal

While waiting in the emergency room the other day I posted on Instagram. I got messages from people, kind messages asking me if everything was okay, letting me know in the days since that they hope I’m feeling better. My family has checked in – How are you feeling? And honestly I have no idea. […]

March 5, 2018

For Laurie

Ottawa, Personal

Before this year I had read one Agatha Christie mystery in my life. I read And Then There Were None when I was a kid. My friend Laurie challenged herself last year to read as many Christie’s as she could. When Laurie died earlier this year the Facebook group that she created drafted a bingo […]

March 3, 2018

March 1, 2018

Health, Personal

I had been feeling a little bit nauseous all day, so I decided to have a small snack to see if not eating was part of the problem. Within half an hour I was feeling super nauseous and lightheaded, with pain radiating across my shoulder blades. I felt horrible and I felt scared. I was […]

March 2, 2018

Beyond Reproach


It has been quite something, watching these young people fight back after seeing their peers shot down in front of them by a young man armed with a gun that should never have been available to him. I’m not American. I don’t like guns. I have never had any desire to own one, touch one, […]

February 23, 2018

A letter


Dear Dad, As the French would say, you have been missing from me lately. I’m sick. I’ve been exhausted this week and the hard things seem to be mounting. I haven’t been able to get to the gym, I haven’t been doing anything for myself, really. Yesterday I felt happy. I woke up in the […]

February 16, 2018

Love of self


I left the house early this morning, which is rare since I work from home. I had a meeting downtown and my husband was staying home with the kid for her PD Day off from school. I got up, got dressed, and went in to say goodbye to her. I won’t see her until late […]

February 16, 2018

Inside Politics


I remember an exchange from several years ago, when a new pundit had appeared on one of the political shows for the first time and had, apparently, been as confrontational when the cameras were off as when they were on. The person telling me this story informed her to tone it down, because we’re all […]

February 11, 2018

Love is love


I remember hugging my father one time. I’m sure it happened more often when I was little, but I have no recollection of it. My grandfather is not much of a hugger either, though I do remember evenings sitting on his lap while he read the paper. Overall, I don’t remember much hugging and kissing […]

February 5, 2018

One to grow on

Health, Personal

The beginning of January was great. I set out a plan and I enacted it. Not all of it, but I was getting started and it felt pretty good. Some days it felt awesome. The day my friend Laurie died I went into aquafit and punched the water with everything I had. I needed to […]

February 4, 2018