The right time

Health, Personal

I was going through my feed reader and I came across this question on Dr. Yoni Freedhoff’s blog Weighty Matters: “Looking at your life – time, stress, health, work, home, kids, mood, etc. – is now a good time to try to affect change?“ Looking at my life the answer is pretty obvious: No. My stress […]

May 29, 2015


Ottawa, Parenting, Personal

I have tried to leave Ottawa four different times in my life, and the longest I managed to stay away was two years. (And that was when I lived close enough to visit regularly). I love this city. I loved growing up here. I love being in the capital. Obviously there are things that bother […]

May 29, 2015

People who need people


I am a big fan of Rupaul’s Drag Race. I have been a big fan since the first season and I have watched all the seasons (including all episodes of the current season) multiple times. Because of my love for all things Drag Race I also happen to subscribe to the Rupaul Podcast. On episodes […]

May 27, 2015

Moving through it

Health, Personal

When my dad was in his 70s his doctor told him that he was minutes from a heart attack. At the same time his doctor told him what he had to do – change his diet, get more exercise. And he did it. He told me he started walking an hour every day, no matter […]

May 25, 2015

365 Days

#MommyScholar, Personal

I tweeted earlier today that I wish it was a year from now. A year from now all of the work left over by my dad’s death will be done and the grief with be less raw. A year from now I will be finishing my Masters and ready to find some great work for […]

May 20, 2015

Two weeks gone


As of today it will be two weeks that my father has been dead. He died two Saturday mornings ago, after talking to his partner and going to the gym. We found out that afternoon. A week later was the funeral. Before the funeral, before the visitation, I made the decision to see my father. […]

May 16, 2015

A Farewell


Saturday was my father’s funeral and I decided, while we were organizing, that I wanted to speak. Of course, after I made the commitment it was difficult to figure out what to say. Then one night last week I was lying in bed, exhausted and trying to get to sleep when thoughts started coming to me, […]

May 10, 2015

What not to do when somebody’s dead


An interesting thing has happened in this whole process of visitations and funerals and wakes and I wanted to pass it on. You see, my dad knew a lot of people in his life. Like A LOT. Many of these people came to the visitation we held on Thursday night. Many more came to the […]

May 8, 2015

Name Game

Parenting, Personal

As we’ve been cleaning out my father’s house and dealing with his affairs we’ve noticed something that I always knew – he had a name problem. My sister says he’s a librarian’s nightmare. He was born Thomas Joseph Scanlon but always went by Joe, which means people always knew him as Joe. We he published […]

May 7, 2015

T. Joseph Scanlon, 1933-2015


We got a phone call yesterday. Totally unexpected. My dad died. Through some weird phone relay my cousin got in touch with us and my sister called him back and he had to tell us. Dad was just gone. Now, this is a man who was in his 50s when I was born and still […]

May 3, 2015