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July 28th, 2013 | Posted by Amy Boughner in #ToddlerLife | Parenting | Personal
Throwing in a picture of my 93-year-old Gramps reading to my 3 year old, because it's an awesome thing.

Throwing in a picture of my 93-year-old Gramps reading to my 3 year old, because it’s an awesome thing.

Occasionally I read the kid a book that contains some wording that I don’t like, or shows behaviour that I don’t want her to emulate, but I carry on with the story and usually forget. Today I read a story that has been bothering me since.

The story is about a little girl with a goal – good, right? But then there’s another little girl that she doesn’t like. Here are the reasons she gives:

“Tiffany was the new girl. Tiffany was big. Tiffany was loud. Tiffany had hairy arms.”

As I was reading these short sentences I got uncomfortable. When I got to the last one I regretted reading the book.

I have hairy arms. It was something I was made self-conscious about this when I was young and for most of my adolescence felt like I was a horrible hairy best and no one else looked like me. That’s not true, and I know that now.

On top of being fat I had no reason to believe that any boy ever looked twice at me, or should ever.

Right now when my daughter asks me about her hairy arms – which she did just about a week ago and I’m still not sure why – I can show her mine and tell her that it’s normal. I don’t know how long she’ll believe that, especially when books like this decide that a feature my daughter has is a reason to give for disliking somebody.

She’s also going to be big, and she tends to be pretty loud.

Don’t get me started on automatically disliking the new girl.

I don’t know what would lead the author of Missy’s Super Duper Royal Deluxe Class Pets to write out those particular reasons, I don’t know if it occurred to anyone in the editing process that it would make a kid like my kid feel bad about who she is, but I think it should have.

We won’t be reading about Missy again.

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