I have a 2 year old. We say no to each other a lot.
She says no to me when I ask her to do something, eat something, go somewhere, get something, clean something up…
I say no to her when she throws things, grabs things, pushes people, does something that’s not safe, asks for something that’s not hers, asks to do something we can’t do…
A whole lot of no-ing goes on in this house.
Except for myself.
I am out of control. I have allowed myself to eat what I want when I want because of all the other stress I’ve been under – leaving work, moving, the toddler – but what I really need to stress about is my health and our budget. I need to be in control, because if I’m not in control of those things then I can’t handle much else.
I can’t keep wanting this and wanting that and letting myself just have it. Not just because I’m fat, but also because every time I order fries now my daughter asks me if she can have some too. And why shouldn’t she be able to have some of what I have?
I don’t want to be a ‘do as I say, not as I do’ parent. I want to be a lead by example parent – in diet and exercise, in having fun and in getting down to work when I need to.
I consider myself a pretty damn good mother most of the time, but I’m a piss poor example right now.