One of the kid’s most-used words lately is ‘myself.’
Whether putting on her shoes or washing her hands, brushing her teeth or sometimes putting on her outfit for the day we hear ‘myself.’ Meaning ‘I want to do it myself’ or more often ‘I will do it myself.’
I expected this independence (my mother has been telling me to expect it), but I don’t think I expected it quite so soon. There are things I know she can’t do on her own yet, so I let her try and then help when she needs it, but quite often this brings on “No Mommy! Myself.”
I want to foster independence in her – I love that she is already showing signs and I think it’s a great skill to have – but I also want her to do things properly. Usually I’ll let it go and let her wear her shoes on the wrong feet, but I often step in for other tasks to try and prevent a mess or hurt. I help her wash her hands so she won’t get soap in her eye, I help her brush her teeth because it’s important to do it right.
There’s a balance, and I’m walking a fine line.