I have been very lucky to find a great group of moms in my community and online. In the past two years or so I have found myself surrounded by a supportive community.
When I was first pregnant I had no idea how to build such a community, but people kept telling me how important it would be. Who would have guessed that I would find these women online? (And not just women, not just parents, all these people that are there to offer advice, answers to questions, or just support and virtual hugs). There are women that I have felt an instant affection for and they have been lovely enough to welcome me into their group.
What I did not expect was that I would fall in love not just with these people, but with their kids.
I am not good with kids. I haven’t had a lot of interaction with kids since I was one. I have nieces and nephews but they didn’t really grow up nearby. I babysat a total of two times that I can remember. Before M was born I had held one baby – my nephew who is now almost 20 years old.
I go on Facebook and I see pictures and I smile just seeing these kids enjoying their days with their moms and dads, doing things that I know we’ll be able to do with Miss M in the future. I have had the opportunity to watch these kids grow up, going through stages that we’re going to experience, some that are M’s age or just a bit older, reliving her baby moments with the kids that are younger.
I love watching her play and interact with these kids, I love that they can teach her a bit about what’s right and what’s wrong.
I knew that building this community was important for her, so she could grow up with friends, kids to interact with and play with. I had no idea it would mean so much to me.