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Learning to say no

March 13th, 2011 | Posted by Amy Boughner in Parenting | Personal

One of the biggest problems in my life is that I have real trouble delaying gratification. If I want something, or want to do something, I want to get it now or have it right away. This is true of me with food and true of me with things. It’s why I’m overweight, it’s why I’m in debt, it’s probably part of the reason I suffer from depression, and it’s one of the biggest things I need to change about myself.

It’s funny that I’ve been thinking about this more and more now just because my kid starts crying when I say no to her or take things she’s not supposed to have away. As her daycare provider says “She doesn’t like no.”

I am know facing a situation of putting my money where my mouth is. I am an example, and we have a problem.

We have a budget we have to stick to, we have meal plans to stick to, and we need to get our exercise. We need to stop taking the easy route – sitting on the couch instead of getting on the treadmill, buying a pizza instead of figuring out what’s for dinner, letting the baby have what she wants instead of trying to explain to her that she can’t and listening to the crying.

I have to tell myself that my goal weight is more important that my desire for a soft drink, that getting out of debt is worth more than a new sweater, that teaching my daughter an important lesson for her future is more important than trying to keep her happy all the time now.

I’m paying the price, she shouldn’t have to.

So I will switch my thinking to long term, I will make do with what I have and a little less, I will force myself to wait a little longer to reward myself in the end. Less weight, less debt, less stress and a happier family all around.

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