I love my daughter. I love spending time with her and holding her and rocking her. I swear I do.
But we’ve fallen down on this putting her to bed thing.
We’ve been trying to develop a routine. Daddy will make her a bottle and take her into her room and rock her until she falls asleep. He’ll play music for her and put her in the crib when she falls asleep and then he’ll sneak out of her room and we will have a restful evening.
Or she’ll wake up as soon as he puts her down or shortly thereafter and the whole process will begin again.
Sometimes she refuses to sleep and starts screaming and crying and eventually falls asleep in your arms once she’s screamed out.
(This is the part where my mother would feign shock that a child would ever have such a hard time going to bed while starring at me pointedly).
It’s incredibly frustrating and often painful – she tends to smack us around, pull hair and sometimes bite.
What I’ve been trying to do lately is put her in her crib, let her fuss and cry a bit while I sit in her room with her, picking her up when she gets really upset.
What I want to be able to do is lay her in her crib, play her some music or read her a story and have her fall asleep on her own. I have no idea if that’s unrealistic for an eight month old. It shouldn’t be. I don’t think it’s unrealistic for my child, if she could just relax.
What I don’t know is how to make it happen, or how to make the transition from falling asleep in mommy or daddy’s arms to falling asleep in the crib.
All suggestions welcome.