I recently started watching Rupaul’s Drag Race (well, I’ve watched both seasons that are available on iTunes multiple times actually). I love the confidence these men get by making themselves into fabulous women, and I find that I can learn a lot about being feminine — and I’m not the only one, hence Rupaul’s Drag U.
In my quest to lose weight and better myself, and my new-found love for Rupaul, I picked up a copy of Rupaul’s new book Workin’ It: Rupaul’s Guide to Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Style. There is a lot of stuff specifically for drag queens that I don’t need to know, and some over-sharing on his own lifestyle, but one thing he has reminded me, and one thing I need to keep reminding myself, is that posture is important.
Posture and the way you carry yourself affect the way you look and the way you feel. My grandmother used to compliment my sister and I on our good posture – something that meant a lot coming from her as she was a tall, athletic teenager that grew that old lady hunch as she aged.
As I try to lose weight, gain strength and improve my image, I know that posture is one of those things I need to concentrate on. Clothes will look better on me, my back and abs will start getting stronger, all because I remember to sit up straight.
Taking care of my body isn’t just about losing weight and getting healthier, it also has to be about doing things that make me feel better about how I look. For example, I’ve been biting my nails again recently. It really hurts and it makes my hands look awful, and when I can manage to grow my nail I get lots of compliments on them for I was blessed with nails that make it look as though I have a permanent French manicure. I also need to start taking care of my feet. I used to be very good at doing a weekly routine, buffing and lotioning my feet so they stayed nice looking, but I think I’ve only done that once this summer.
I’ve got my facial routine down. I’ve started spending a little more on products and once a week I exfoliate and do a mask and I feel better about my skin.
My hair is an issue. I’m not good at doing things with my hair and sometimes I leave the house and then realize that I didn’t even look at it in the mirror. Right now I have it short and it makes me feel less feminine, which I didn’t expect when I cut it. I’ve never really cared about my hair, I’ve tried different things and had it longer and shorter and I’ve never been afraid to cut it off because it always grows back, but I feel strange having hair this short and putting on a dress. People have told me it looks really good, but I just can’t get quite comfortable, so I’m going to grow it back out and into my comfortable old bob.
Hopefully all of this – the weight loss, the improved posture, the new-found strength and the beauty regimens – will combine to make me feel more like a woman and less like a girl. That’s my ultimate goal, I think. I may be a wife and a mother with a career and responsibilities, but I still feel like a kid trying to find her way around the grown-up world. New body, new confidence, new style should all lend themselves to new attitude.